A beginner’s guide to Tinder dating

For years and months I shunned the world of Tinder, telling myself that I was above it all and, perhaps arrogantly, that I didn’t need it. Fact is I don’t, but it doesn’t make the dating app any less useful.

One thing I find with meeting girls in clubs (or club circuit) is that it’s often a rushed and loud debacle as you struggle to be heard over the music and shouts of drunken people. Chances are you’re already drunk and not in the frame of mind to make the correct choices (beer goggles), say the right things, or even appeal to the opposite sex due to looking weathered. Then there are the friends, perhaps the biggest deterrent on both sides, always sticking their ore in and getting in the way.

On Tinder you start with nothing. You can create the environment in which to thrive on. On the club circuit you have to adapt fast to your environment and aim to keep the attention of your attraction in a very short amount of time. On Tinder you can set the scene, the pace, the atmosphere and the rules of engagement long before you’ve even met the person. Perhaps I can thrive in both circumstances, but the truth is not everyone can and even I will tell you, the margin for failure is greater on the club circuit. If you’re not confident, or you’re heartbroken, lonely, or you’re looking to pull, or even if you’re looking for love, Tinder is the place to be.

My own personal involvement stemmed from the destruction of a long term relationship that left me cold and insecure. I had began to doubt myself. My relationship ended because of unforeseen circumstances. No cheating, no fighting, no disliking, just the fact that life will take people in different directions. What it made me feel, however, was that I had been locked away for a long time and now was the time to find myself and the world again. The quickest way to see what was out there was Tinder.

It’s a millennial’s dream. You have your smartphone (which you are forever bound to), you have instant gratification, you get to judge people on their looks (let’s face it we do it even inadvertently), and it takes minimal effort to swipe left (for no) and right (for yes). Everything is moving so fast these days so to have an app that moves even faster is actually a great invention - bringing people together in the speed it takes to move a thumb across a screen.

So I’ve decided to write a series of dating advice articles on not just Tinder dating, but millennial dating in general. Admittedly most will be based around Tinder but what I will teach you will help you in any and all situations. I’m moderately good looking, but I’m no David Beckham. I just have a RIDICULOUS success rate. Everyone has the ability to pull and I want to share some of the tricks of the trade I’ve picked up.

So if you’re interesting in learning how to improve your game look out for my dating advice articles. We’ll speak soon.

Mr T

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